How would you feel if you waoke up in the middle of an ocean surrounded by nothing,. You are confused you are and scared whbut you stilel trying to look for land nearby land or clear direction towards your salvation, s. Suddenly, the weather gets densskies start to get cloudier, and you start losing hope and wishing to miraculously get out from this nightmare, feeling overwhelmed by the prospect that you can't swim anymore or do anything because you don't know where to begin from and toor even which direction to aimhead. How would you feel if you woke up in the middle of an ocean surrounded by nothing. You are confused and scared but you still try to look for nearby land or clear direction towards your salvation. Suddenly, the skies start to get cloudier, and you start losing hope and wishing to miraculously get out from this nightmare, feeling overwhelmed by the prospect that you can't swim anymore or do anything because you don't know where to begin or even which direction to head.

Too wordy to be one sentence. But very well written

Well, that is what usually most of the twenty-somethings (as Jay calls them) feel after they finish school and start integrating with society, and unfortunately, schools don't prepare us withfor that, i. In schools and universities twenty-somethings hasve a clear vision of what they ought to do and what not to do, everything is predictable, getting As and doing your homework will grant you success in that stage, h. However, after graduation and the end of the grading system real livfe begins to become aimless and at a loose end, tmore unpredictable. That leads twenty-something Ls living without perspective in their twenties followed by tears shed when they reach their thirties and forties because they are now paying a steep price professionally, romantically, economically, reproductively for a lack of vision in their twenties. Well, that is what most of the twenty-somethings (as Jay calls them) feel after they finish school and start integrating with society, and unfortunately, schools don't prepare us for that. In schools and universities twenty-somethings have a clear vision of what they ought to do and what not to do, everything is predictable, getting As and doing your homework will grant you success in that stage. However, after graduation and the end of the grading system real life begins to become aimless and more unpredictable. That leads twenty-somethings living without perspective in their twenties followed by tears shed when they reach their thirties and forties because they are now paying a steep price professionally, romantically, economically, reproductively for a lack of vision in their twenties.

Plus, our culture promotes the idea that, well, your twenties are extended adolescence where you goof around and have fun, leaveing adult responsibilities for later youas you are still young. Plus, our culture promotes the idea that, well, your twenties are extended adolescence where you goof around and have fun, leaving adult responsibilities for later as you are still young.

wherWhile that might be true in some way but, they dismiss the fact that this decade is the foundation that defines our identity in the coming years and the time when the experiences that we havemake will disproportionately influence the adult lives we will lead. While that might be true in some way, they dismiss the fact that this decade is the foundation that defines our identity in the coming years and the time when the experiences that we make will disproportionately influence the adult lives we will lead.

Jay argues in her book that the twenties are real-timewhen reality should kick in and ought to be lived that way and that your twenties are thea critical period of adulthood, and her presumption is based on her clinical practice as a clinical psychologist where she dealt with twenty-something year old patients. Jay argues in her book that the twenties are when reality should kick in and ought to be lived that way and that your twenties are a critical period of adulthood, and her presumption is based on her clinical practice as a clinical psychologist where she dealt with twenty-something year old patients.

Well, there are certain points wherethat you have to focus on, jJay's argued, first one isly, your iIdentity capital, i. Identity capital, as jJay defines it, and I quote " ... Is (identity capital) our collection of personal assets". Well, there are certain points that you have to focus on, Jay argued, firstly, your Identity capital. Identity capital, as Jay defines it, and I quote " ... Is our collection of personal assets".

These are the investments in ourselves...." end quote, and she categorized our identity capital into two sects, tions. The ones that goes on a resumeés such as degrees, jobs, etc, and the personal dimensions of identity capital which influences the way we speak, how we solve problems, etc. These are the investments in ourselves...." end quote, and she categorized our identity capital into two sections. The ones that go on a resumés such as degrees, jobs, etc, and the personal dimensions of identity capital which influences the way we speak, how we solve problems, etc.

And to her, identity capital is a baby step toward self-actualization and it is what we bring to the adult marketplace, i. It is the currency we use to purchaseget jobs and build relationships... And that will result in getting a clearer sense about ourselves, greater life satisfaction, better stress management, strong reasoning, and resistance to conformity. And to her, identity capital is a baby step toward self-actualization and it is what we bring to the adult marketplace. It is the currency we use to get jobs and build relationships... And that will result in getting a clearer sense about ourselves, greater life satisfaction, better stress management, strong reasoning, and resistance to conformity.

tTo build your identity capital you have to explore the world and also equip yourself with true commitments, which twenty-somethings apparently lack, and also get yourself into challenging situations, where you get something new out of that experience. To build your identity capital you have to explore the world and also equip yourself with true commitments, which twenty-somethings apparently lack, and also get yourself into challenging situations where you get something new out of that experience.

Also meet new people, r. Research in sociology shows that similarity breeds connection, and, people are more likely to form close relationships with those most like them, as a result, we have, as jJay referred to them in her book a, homogeneous cliques. Also meet new people. Research in sociology shows that similarity breeds connection, and, people are more likely to form close relationships with those most like them, as a result, we have, as Jay referred to them in her book, homogeneous cliques.

ItOne feels more comfortable to have a supportingve people behind youtheir Bbacks, and that is one the prons of the homogeneous clique h. However there are some drawbacks to it too, and the obvious one is that they share similar minaterialitystic tendancies and assumptions which clingiwhen clung to it, might limit your overall improvement as a person and create the wrong conceptualization of the world. One feels more comfortable to have supportive people behind their backs, and that is one the pros of the homogeneous clique. However there are some drawbacks to it too, and the obvious one is that they share similar materialistic tendancies and assumptions which when clung to, might limit overall improvement as a person and create the wrong conceptualization of the world.

oOn the other hand, getting on with people that you don't necessarily share a common ground with forces us to communicate from a place of difference and that jJay referred to as elaborated speech which doesn't presume that the listener is well-grounded with your beliefs and has the same information you have. On the other hand, getting on with people that you don't necessarily share common ground with forces us to communicate from a place of difference and that Jay referred to as elaborated speech which doesn't presume that the listener is well-grounded with your beliefs and has the same information you have.

Which doesn't presume that the listener is well-grounded with your beliefs and has the same information you have. .

And as a result, a form of forced communication will be forced thatdevelop which tends to be more organized and articulated by those who engaged in it, which give us access to something fresh and new and that's what Jay called the strength of weak ties. And as a result, a form of forced communication will develop which tends to be more organized and articulated by those who engaged in it, which give us access to something fresh and new and that's what Jay called the strength of weak ties.

Our urge to grow towards our potential leaves us in a problematic situation known as t, "The search for glory" and the tyranny of the should. Our urge to grow towards our potential leaves us in a problematic situation known as, "The search for glory" and the tyranny of the should.

我不明白“tyranny of the should"

Well, Jay affirms that to solveurpass this obstacle, twenty-somethings have to realize their potential and gifts while acknowledging their limitations so they neither dream too big nor dream too small but have a dream that fits with the world around us which leads us toward realizing our authenticreal potential. Well, Jay affirms that to surpass this obstacle, twenty-somethings have to realize their potential and gifts while acknowledging their limitations so they neither dream too big nor dream too small but have a dream that fits with the world around us which leads us toward realizing our real potential.

More natural to say "surpass an obstacle".

And that might manifest itself in the form of cultural pressexpectation, where, for example, the culture presushes you to be an engineer as a form of an ideal state beforen ideal job rather than you finding your authentic self, a. Any search of glory is propelled by the tyranny of the should. And that might manifest itself in the form of cultural expectation, where, for example, the culture pushes you to be an engineer as an ideal job rather than you finding your authentic self. Any search of glory is propelled by the tyranny of the should.

Work should be wow,wow you. I should go to graduate school, I should masquerade as the paralyzing judgements from the outside and the oppressive obligations where goals direct us from the inside and are the manifestation of authentic dreams as Jay argues. Work should wow you. I should go to graduate school, I should masquerade as the paralyzing judgements from the outside and the oppressive obligations where goals direct us from the inside and are the manifestation of authentic dreams as Jay argues.