Dec. 8, 2022
Why We Compare Ourselves To Others?
Let’s be fair, we compare ourselves to others all the time. When we see someone who is driving an outstanding sports car, or we find out that our college friend have bought a luxurious apartment, most of us start thinking “Gosh, what a lucky man.” Frankly speaking, we also compare ourselves to others in more prosaic circumstances: when we see our friend's new clothes or notice how easily our coworker builds a friendship with others. Immediately after we find out that someone is funnier, richer, or smarter than we are, we start to compare ourselves to them. Unfortunately, most of the time our conclusions aren’t in our favor. Comparing creates negative feelings and causes us to feel jealous, envy, and frustrated. We began asking ourselves, why don’t we achieve the things other people have, and why everyone looks happier then we are. However, should we really compare ourselves to others?
When Have We Started to Compare Ourselves to Others?
Indeed, people have compared themselves to others in the past. Nevertheless, at those times there were no Internet and TV, so people counted more on their intuition when they set their goals and create expectations from life. However, with the development of TV and internet, comparison have become the non-stop activity. TV ads amplified consumeristic crave, so people learnt longing for things they don’t actually need, whether it is a new pair of jeans or a sumptuous apartment. Media created a perfect trap that till now have been successfully provoking in people irresistible desire to have.
With the coming of Internet, this craving for better looking or having better things became enormous because of the very nature of social media. On Instagram, we every day see numerous profiles of wealthy millionaires cheerful bloggers, and pretty models. As a result, even if we don’t want to, we inevitably compare their lives with ours, which leads to negative feelings about ourselves.
Is Comparing Bad?
The fact is, comparing is not that bad. It’s true that it’s part of our nature which helps us to make sure we do things correctly in life. It’s also in our nature to strive for achievements and crave for something what we want to obtain. These features help us to become a better person and gain satisfaction from life, whether through aspiring career goals, learning new skills, or travelling to new places. Comparing becomes a problem when we place too much attention on it and when we think that others are better than we are. Comparing causes envy, jealous and dissatisfaction; it’s a tedious process that places a great pressure on our feeling of self-worth, and makes us vulnerable and insecure. Someone begins thinking about their imperfection, others start analyzing their so called “flaws.”
Comparing ourselves makes u believe that we should change and obtain things that we necessarily don't need. Thus, our disappointment and anxiety push us toward new goals, and we strive to become a better version of ourselves: smart enough, beauty enough and so on. We go to the gym, change careers, go on a diet, thinking that it’ll help us to be the best. It seems that our accomplishments should help us finally feel satisfied. However, when we achieve something, we don’t really feel any different.
Why does that happen? The problem is, the rush for something better is a never-ending process, known in psychology as a “hedonic treadmill.” Once we reach something, we return to the stable baseline of happiness, raise our expectations, and, again, want more. A new state of being soon thereafter becomes a new norm, so we start expecting more from the world: more luxurious apartments, more attractive body, or a successful career. Indeed, after getting what we want we again begin comparing ourselves to others and never feel grateful for what we already have. As a result, comparing never stops and leads only to bigger dissatisfaction in life. Struggling with mental illnesses, food disorders, depression, and anxiety are the results of the rush for the so called “better version of ourselves.”
How To Stop Comparing?
The idea that other people have better life is probably an illusion that creates our own minds. In fact, when we envy an attractive model, or a guy in an expensive Ferrari, we don’t really know what we jealous for, because we don’t see the reality of others life. Who knows, maybe this model is struggling with a food disorder, and this guy have no friends because of his wealthiness. The same is true for social media. When we see famous bloggers on bounty islands, or our cheerful friends on their holidays — in posh environment and in luxurious dresses — we compare their “top moments” with our average, day-to-day life. We think their lives are easy and free from worries, forgetting that nobody is willing to show their exhaustion, sadness, or loneliness online. We forget that wealthy businessman probably has an enormous burden of responsibility and, perhaps, works so much that he doesn’t see his family and children. Probably, he also has no weekends or holidays.
We don’t know what it is, what we are jealous of, so it’s better to be jealous carefully. It would be better to keep in mind that all of us have our own unique circumstances, talents, and personality. Every single person has their own advantages and problems, so it’s just incorrect to compare ourselves with others. Instead of comparing, let’s concentrate on something what we really can control, namely our life. We can’t control others, but we can see who we were yesterday, who we’re becoming today in order to get what we want tomorrow. We can accept ourselves and live our unique lives in authentic ways. Marcus Aurelius said that the best way to live is by accepting other people and ourselves, and learn to live well regardless on the circumstances. If we accept who we are, we liberate our minds from the buzz of social judgments and comparing. Therefore, get the chance to become truly happy.
Why We Compare Ourselves WithTo Others?
Let’s be fair, we compare ourselves withto others all the time.
When we see someone who is driving an outstanding sports car, or we find out that our college friend have bought a luxurious apartment, m. Most of us start thinking “Gosh, what a lucky man.” Speaking frankly, weFrankly speaking, we also compare ourselves withto others also in more prosaic circumstances: when we see when we see our friend's new clothes or notice how easily our coworker builds a friendship with others.
Immediately after we find out that someone is funnier, richer, or smarter than we are, w. We start to compare ourselves withto them.
Unfortunately, most allof the time our conclusions aren’t in our favor.
Comparing with others creates negative feelings and causes in us us to feel jealousy, envy, and frustrationed.
You can say "comparing ourselves to others create negative feelings-" but that would be too repetitive in this case. Since the context is clear, we can omit the "ourselves to others" part
We began asking ourselves, why don’t we achieve the things other people gothave, and why everyone is looks happier then we are.
However, shouldo we really should compare ourselves withto others?
When Have We Started to Compare Ourselves Withto Others?
Indeed, people have compared themselves withto others in the past.
Nevertheless, at those times there were no Internet and TV, s. So people counted more on their intuition when they set their goals and create expectations from life.
However, with the development of TV and internet, comparison have become the non-stop activity.
Media created a perfect trap, that till now have been successfully provoking in people irresistible desire to have.
With the coming of Internet, this craving for better lookings or having better things became enormous because of the very nature of social media.
On Instagram, we every day see numerous profiles of wealthy millionaires cheerful bloggers, and pretty models.
Then we become to identify ourselves with their success, beauty, or popularity.
Not sure what you're trying to say here though
As a result, even if we don’t want to, we inevitably compare their lives with ours, w. Which leads to negative feelings about ourselves.
Is Comparing Bad?
The fact is, comparing is not that bad.
It’s truthe that it’s part of our nature which helps us to make sure we do things correctly in life.
These features help us to become a better person and gain satisfaction from life, whether through aspiring career goals, learning new skills, or travelling to new places.
Comparing causes envy, jealous and dissatisfaction; it’s a tedious process that places a great pressure on our feeling of self-worth, and makes us vulnerable and insecure.
Comparing becomes a problem when we place too much attention on it and becomwhen we thinking that others are better than we are.
Thus, our disappointment and anxiety push us toward new goals, and we strive to become a better version of ourselves: smart enough, beauty enough and so on.
Comparing with otherourselves makes us believe that we should change ourselves and obtain things that we not necessarily don't need.
We go to the gym, change careers, go on a diet, thinking that it’ll help us to be the best.
It seems that our accomplishments should help us finally feel satisfied.
However, when we achieve something, w. We don’t really feel any different.
Why does that’s happen?
The problem is, the rush for something better is a never-ending process, known in psychology as a “hedonic treadmill.” Once we reach something, we return to the stable baseline of happiness, raise our expectations, and, again, want more.
As a result, comparing never stops and leads only to bigger dissatisfaction in life.
Indeed, after getting what we want w. We again begain comparing ourselves withto others and never feel grateful for what we already have.
Struggling with mental illnesses, food disorders, depression, and anxiety are the results of the rush for the so called “better version of ourselves.”
How To Stop Comparing?
The idea that other people have better life is probably an illusion that creates our own minds.
In fact, when we envy an attractive model, or a guy in an expensive Ferrari, w. We don’t really know what we jealous for, because we don’t see the reality of others life.
Who knows, maybe this model is struggling with a food disorder, and this guy have no friends because of his wealthiness.
The same is true aboutfor social media.
We think their lives are easy and free from worries, forgetting that nobody readyis willing to show online their exhaustion, sadness, or loneliness online.
Probably, he also has no weekends or holidays.
We forget that wealthy businessman is probably haves an enormous burden of responsibility and, perhaps, works so much that he doesn’t see his family and children.
We don’t know what it is, what we are jealous of, so it’s better to be jealous carefully.
It would be better to keep in mind that all of us have our own unique circumstances, talents, and personality.
Instead of comparing, let’s concentrate on something what we really can control, namely our life.
Every one of us alsingle person hasve their own advantages and problems, s. So it’s just incorrect to compare us with others.
We can’t control others, b. But we can see who we were yesterday, who we’re becoming today in order to get what we want tomorrow.
Marcus Aurelius said that the best way to live is by accepting other people and ourselves, and learn to live well regardless on the circumstances.
We can accept ourselves and live our unique lives in an authentic way.
If we accept who we are, we liberate our minds from the buzz of social judgments and comparing, t. Therefore, get the chance to become truly happy.
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That was lengthy but a good read! The topic and the stuff that you said are really interesting.
Dec. 9, 2022
Let’s be fair, we compare ourselves withto others all the time.
Can you explain why I should change the preposition?
Dec. 9, 2022
When we see someone who is driving an outstanding sports car, or we find out that our college friend have bought a luxurious apartment, m. Most of us start thinking “Gosh, what a lucky man.” Speaking frankly, weFrankly speaking, we also compare ourselves withto others also in more prosaic circumstances: when we see when we see our friend's new clothes or notice how easily our coworker builds a friendship with others.
Don't understand why " most of us start..." became a new sentence
Dec. 9, 2022
Immediately after we find out that someone is funnier, richer, or smarter than we are, w. We start to compare ourselves withto them.
don't understand why you suggest to create two sentences
Dec. 9, 2022
Comparing with others creates negative feelings and causes in us us to feel jealousy, envy, and frustrationed.
thnx
Dec. 9, 2022
Nevertheless, at those times there were no Internet and TV, s. So people counted more on their intuition when they set their goals and create expectations from life.
Why?
Dec. 9, 2022
Media created a perfect trap, that till now have been successfully provoking in people irresistible desire to have.
"You should use a comma before that when it introduces a parenthetical phrase (provides extra information)"
I think in this sentence I provide essential information, so shouldn't use comma
Dec. 9, 2022
Then we become to identify ourselves with their success, beauty, or popularity.
agree, it's not clear, I delete
Dec. 9, 2022
As a result, even if we don’t want to, we inevitably compare their lives with ours, w. Which leads to negative feelings about ourselves.
again, why you separated this sentence?
Dec. 9, 2022
Comparing becomes a problem when we place too much attention on it and becomwhen we thinking that others are better than we are.
it's a parallel construction?
Dec. 9, 2022
Comparing with otherourselves makes us believe that we should change ourselves and obtain things that we not necessarily don't need.
make, not makes? gerund is always singular, isn't it?
Dec. 9, 2022
Comparing with otherourselves makes us believe that we should change ourselves and obtain things that we not necessarily don't need.
necessarily don't need. — can you explain why it's better to say like that?
Dec. 9, 2022
However, when we achieve something, w. We don’t really feel any different.
I think it's redundant to separate this sentence in two
Dec. 9, 2022
thank you so much for your help here! I would be grateful if you can answer my questions 🙏
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Why We Compare Ourselves With Others? Why We Compare Ourselves |
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Let’s be fair, we compare ourselves with others all the time. Let’s be fair, we compare ourselves |
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When we see someone is driving an outstanding sport car, or we find out that our college friend have bought a luxurious apartment, most of us start thinking “Gosh, what a lucky man.” Speaking frankly, we compare ourselves with others also in more prosaic circumstances: when we see a new clothes of our friend, or notice how easily our coworker builds a friendship with others. |
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Immediately after we find out that someone is funnier, richer, or smarter than we are, we start to compare ourselves with them, Unfortunately, most all the time our conclusions aren’t in our favor. |
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Comparing with others creates negative feelings and makes us feel jealousy, envy, and frustration. |
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We began asking ourselves, why don’t we achieve the things other people got, and why everyone is looks happier then we are. We began asking ourselves, why don’t we achieve the things other people |
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However, do we really should compare ourselves with others? However, should |
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When Have We Started to Compare Ourselves With Others? When Have We Started to Compare Ourselves |
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Indeed, people have compared themselves with others in the past. Indeed, people have compared themselves |
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Nevertheless, at those times there were no Internet and TV, so people counted more on their intuition when they set their goals and create expectations from life. Nevertheless, at those times there were no Internet and TV |
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However, with the development of TV and internet, comparison have became non-stop activity. |
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TV ads amplify consumeristic crave, so people learnt longing for the things they don’t actually need, whether it is a new pair of jeans or a sumptuous apartment. |
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TV and ads created a perfect trap that till now have been successfully provoking in people irresistible desire to have. |
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With the coming of Internet, this craving for better looking or having better things became enormous because of the very nature of social media. With the coming of Internet, this craving for better look |
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On Instagram, we daily see numerous profiles of wealthy millionaires cheerful bloggers, and pretty models. |
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Then we become to identify ourselves with their success, beauty, or popularity. Then we Not sure what you're trying to say here though |
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As a result, even if we don’t want, we inevitably compare their lives with ours, which leads to negative feelings about ourselves. As a result, even if we don’t want to, we inevitably compare their lives with ours |
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Is Comparing Bad? This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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The fact is, comparing is not that bad. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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It’s truth that it’s part of our nature which helps us to make sure we do things correctly in life. It’s tru |
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It’s also in our nature to strive for achievements and crave for something what we want to obtain. |
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These features help us to become a better person and gain satisfaction from life, whether through aspiring career goals, learning new skills, or travelling to new places. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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Comparing becomes a problem when we place too much attention on it and become thinking that others are better than we are. Comparing becomes a problem when we place too much attention on it and |
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Comparing causes envy, jealous and dissatisfaction; it’s a tedious process that places a great pressure on our feeling of self-worth, and makes us vulnerable and insecure. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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Someone become thinking about their imperfection, others start analyze their so called “flaws”. |
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Comparing with others makes us believe that we should change ourselves and obtain things that we not necessarily need. Comparing |
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Thus, our disappointment and anxiety push us toward new goals, and we strive to become a better version of ourselves: smart enough, beauty enough and so on. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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We go to the gym, change careers, go on a diet, thinking that it’ll help us to be the best. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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It seems that our accomplishments should help us finally feel satisfied. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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However, when we achieve something, we don’t really feel any different. However, when we achieve something |
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Why that’s happen? Why does that |
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The problem is, rush for something better is a never-ending process, known in psychology as a “hedonic treadmill.” Once we reach something, we return to the stable baseline of happiness, raise our expectations, and, again, want more. The problem is, the rush for something better is a never-ending process, known in psychology as a “hedonic treadmill.” Once we reach something, we return to the stable baseline of happiness, raise our expectations, and, again, want more. |
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A new state of being soon thereafter becomes a new norm, so we start expecting more from the world: more luxurious apartments, more attractive body, or successful career. |
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Indeed, after getting what we want we again began comparing ourselves with others and never feel grateful for what we already have. Indeed, after getting what we want |
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As a result, comparing never stops and leads only to bigger dissatisfaction in life. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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Struggling with mental illnesses, food disorders, depression and anxiety — all these problems are the results of the rush for the so called “better version of ourselves.” |
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How To Stop Compare? |
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The idea that other people have better life is probably an illusion that creates our own minds. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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In fact, when we envy an attractive model, or a guy in an expensive Ferrari, we don’t really know what we jealous for, because we don’t see the reality of others life. In fact, when we envy an attractive model, or a guy in an expensive Ferrari |
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Who knows, maybe this model is struggling with a food disorder, and this guy have no friends because of his wealthiness. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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The same is true about social media. The same is true |
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When we see famous bloggers on bounty islands, or our cheerful friends on their holidays — in posh environment and in luxurious dresses — we compare their “top moments” with our average, day-to-day life. |
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We think their lives are easy and free from worries, forgetting that nobody ready to show online their exhaustion, sadness, or loneliness. We think their lives are easy and free from worries, forgetting that nobody |
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We forget that wealthy businessman is probably have an enormous burden of responsibility and, perhaps, work so much that he doesn’t see his family and children. |
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Probably, he also have no weekends or holidays. |
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We don’t know what it is, what we are jealous of, so it’s better to jealous carefully. We don’t know what it is, what we are jealous of, so it’s better to be jealous carefully. |
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It would be better to keep in mind that all of us have our own unique circumstances, talents, and personality. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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Everyone of us also have our own advantages and problems, so it’s just incorrect to compare us with others. |
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Instead of comparing, let’s concentrate on something what we really can control, namely our life. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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We can’t control others, but we can see who we were yesterday, who we’re becoming today in order to get what we want tomorrow. We can’t control others |
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We can accept ourselves and live our unique lives in authentic way. We can accept ourselves and live our unique lives in an authentic way. |
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Marcus Aurelius said that the best way to live is by accepting other people and ourselves, and learn to live well regardless on the circumstances. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
|
If we accept who we are, we liberate our minds form the buzz of social judgments and comparing, therefore, get the chance to become truly happy. |
|
Immediately after we find out that someone is funnier, richer, or smarter than we are, we start to compare ourselves with them. Immediately after we find out that someone is funnier, richer, or smarter than we are |
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Unfortunately, most all the time our conclusions aren’t in our favor. Unfortunately, most |
|
When we see someone is driving an outstanding sport car, or we find out that our college friend have bought a luxurious apartment, most of us start thinking “Gosh, what a lucky man.” Speaking frankly, we compare ourselves with others also in more prosaic circumstances: when we see when we see our friend's new clothes or notice how easily our coworker builds a friendship with others. When we see someone who is driving an outstanding sports car, or we find out that our college friend have bought a luxurious apartment |
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A new state of being soon thereafter becomes a new norm, so we start expecting more from the world: more luxurious apartments, more attractive body, or a successful career. |
|
Struggling with mental illnesses, food disorders, depression and anxiety are the results of the rush for the so called “better version of ourselves.” |
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Struggling with mental illnesses, food disorders, depression, and anxiety are the results of the rush for the so called “better version of ourselves.” This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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How To Stop Comparing? This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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Comparing with others creates negative feelings and causes in us jealousy, envy, and frustration. Comparing You can say "comparing ourselves to others create negative feelings-" but that would be too repetitive in this case. Since the context is clear, we can omit the "ourselves to others" part |
|
However, with the development of TV and internet, comparison have become the non-stop activity. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
|
TV ads amplified consumeristic crave, so people learnt longing for things they don’t actually need, whether it is a new pair of jeans or a sumptuous apartment. |
|
Media created a perfect trap that till now have been successfully provoking in people irresistible desire to have. Media created a perfect trap, that till now have been successfully provoking in people irresistible desire to have. |
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Someone becomes thinking about their imperfection, others start analyzing their so called “flaws.” |
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Someone begins thinking about their imperfection, others start analyzing their so called “flaws.” |
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We forget that wealthy businessman is probably have an enormous burden of responsibility and, perhaps, works so much that he doesn’t see his family and children. We forget that wealthy businessman |
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Probably, he also has no weekends or holidays. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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Every one of us also has their own advantages and problems, so it’s just incorrect to compare us with others. Every |
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If we accept who we are, we liberate our minds from the buzz of social judgments and comparing, therefore, get the chance to become truly happy. If we accept who we are, we liberate our minds from the buzz of social judgments and comparing |
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On Instagram, we every day see numerous profiles of wealthy millionaires cheerful bloggers, and pretty models. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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Why We Compare Ourselves To Others? |
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Let’s be fair, we compare ourselves to others all the time. |
|
When we see someone who is driving an outstanding sports car, or we find out that our college friend have bought a luxurious apartment, most of us start thinking “Gosh, what a lucky man.” Frankly speaking, we also compare ourselves to others in more prosaic circumstances: when we see our friend's new clothes or notice how easily our coworker builds a friendship with others. |
|
Immediately after we find out that someone is funnier, richer, or smarter than we are, we start to compare ourselves to them. |
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Unfortunately, most of the time our conclusions aren’t in our favor. |
|
Comparing creates negative feelings and causes us to feel jealous, envy, and frustrated. |
|
We began asking ourselves, why don’t we achieve the things other people have, and why everyone looks happier then we are. |
|
However, should we really compare ourselves to others? |
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When Have We Started to Compare Ourselves to Others? |
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Indeed, people have compared themselves to others in the past. |
|
As a result, even if we don’t want to, we inevitably compare their lives with ours, which leads to negative feelings about ourselves. |
|
It’s true that it’s part of our nature which helps us to make sure we do things correctly in life. |
|
Comparing becomes a problem when we place too much attention on it and when we think that others are better than we are. |
|
Comparing ourselves makes u believe that we should change and obtain things that we necessarily don't need. |
|
Why does that happen? |
|
The problem is, the rush for something better is a never-ending process, known in psychology as a “hedonic treadmill.” Once we reach something, we return to the stable baseline of happiness, raise our expectations, and, again, want more. |
|
Indeed, after getting what we want we again begin comparing ourselves to others and never feel grateful for what we already have. |
|
The same is true for social media. |
|
We think their lives are easy and free from worries, forgetting that nobody is willing to show their exhaustion, sadness, or loneliness online. |
|
We forget that wealthy businessman probably has an enormous burden of responsibility and, perhaps, works so much that he doesn’t see his family and children. |
|
We don’t know what it is, what we are jealous of, so it’s better to be jealous carefully. |
|
Every single person has their own advantages and problems, so it’s just incorrect to compare ourselves with others. |
|
We can accept ourselves and live our unique lives in authentic ways. |
|
If we accept who we are, we liberate our minds from the buzz of social judgments and comparing. |
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Therefore, get the chance to become truly happy. |
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