What is Self Justification Is and How It Helps Us Feel Better

alternative: What Is Self Justification and How Does It Help Us Feel Better?

Indeed, usually we choose something s [unconsciously] and later make up reasons for our choices.

The person made a conscious decision to buy the Mercedes, so “unconsciously” doesn’t seem right to me.

You spendt all of your savings on this car and have put a strain on your budget.

For consistency with “have put” in this sentence and “got” in the next.

You’ll probably start to tell your friends how great and safe this car is fantastic and safe, and how important it is for you to drive your children safely to school.

Also, you can come up with reasons like this:  “I’ve worked hard all my life and now can afford to give myself a Mercedes.

If some of your friends will also buy Mercedes after your talk, you’ll feel even better about your new car even more.

AThe term "cognitive dissonance" describes a mental discomfort that a person feels when heolding two contradictory beliefs, attitudes or values.

A smoker may decide that cigarettes are not as detrimental as everyone says, or they may convince themselves that the pleasure ofrom smoking outweighs the consequences to their health.

They need to believe that they've made the right choice simply.

“Simply” doesn’t belong at the end of the sentence.

They need(simply) need (simply) to believe (simply) that they've made(simply) made (simply) the right choice.

You would need to put “simply” near the verb or adjective that you want it to modify. But I’m not sure that “simply” is the adverb you want. I suspect that you want to emphasize “need,” in which case “absolutely” might be better, since “simply” would imply that their need is simple, which doesn’t seem to be what you’re saying. If I’ve understood correctly, then this might work: “They absolutely need to believe….”

I don't think I would have met my partner, wouldn’t have changed my career, and wouldn’t gor gone to travel.

“Don’t think” applies to everything that follows it.

That’s exactly what students (in school exactly) do when they’re bullying someone (at school).

suggestion: That’s what a bully does when he bullies someone. (“Students” and “in/at school” seem unnecessary and distracting to me.)

You may believe that you make good choices in life, but is it like thatare you really?

As a matter of fact, most of the time we choose something unour choices subconsciously and then later make up reasons for our choicesthem.

Let’s imagine that you've driven an old Kia all your life , but then you've decided to buy a Mercedes.

You spentd all of your savings on this car and have put a strain on your budget.

Maybe you even had to gegot a loan from the bank.

In other words, it waisn’t a reasonable purchase.

Probably you’llYou will probably start to tell your friends how great and safe this car, is and how important it ishas become for you to drive your children safely to school.

I put 'had become' because it shows a sudden transition to really caring about car safety for your children. Which is appropiate considering you are finding all sorts of reasons for justifying buying an expensive car.

Also you canould come up with reasons like thissuch as these:

Such as and like in this sentence are the same.

“I work hard all my life and now can afford myself a Mercedes.”

Why do we do suchthese things?

'Why do we do these things?' is more natural.

If some of your friends also willgo on to buy a Mercedes after your chatt together, you’ll feel better about your new car even more.

Because we want to reduce the cognitive dissonance about our actions.

We couldn't be sure on 100 percentan't always be one hundred perfect sure that we have made the right decisions whether we bought a car, joined an art course or ordered a new pair of jeans.

Let’s take a look at another example.

SHow about someone who wholeheartedly believes in a healthy lifestyle but simultaneouslythey also smokes.?

'Let’s take a look at another example: someone who wholeheartedly believes in a healthy lifestyle but they also smoke.' would be better, too.

A smoking person may decide that cigarettes are not thatas harmful as everyone says, or they may convince themselves that the pleasure from smoking overutweights the consequences fover their health.

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They simply need to believe that they've made athe right choice.

So, if you want to make somea decision, don't ask for advice from a person who have just done it.

For example, If someone haves visited psychotherapist for ten years and spent on it $50 ,000, they will probably tell you that Dr. Davidson is a great specialist.

“I don’t know how different would my life lookwould be if I washaven't gone to him.

I think I wouldn’t have met my partner, wouldn’t have been able to change careers and I wouldn’'t gohave been able to go out traveling.

I wouldn’t have been as happybe as happy as I am right now!” Of course, this person will never tell you something like “Dr Davidson is fraud and liear, and you should never sign up for a session!” If we spend on something a lot of money and energy on something, we will support our decision at any price.

For instance, some psychotherapists support the idea that expressing anger will help reduce it.

We will justify not only our purchases but also our actions.

As a matter of fact, it works's the completely opposite.

Hitting thea pillow or shouting in the forest will makes us even angrier.

That’s exactly what students in school do, when they're bullying someone.

When a bulliery later understoodands that he hadn’ts no actual reasons for beating aup the quiet student, he becomestarts creating excuses for his behaviour to reduce discomfort.

“This person is a nerd,” “If he had a chance, he would also beat me up.” In other words, a bulliery blames atheir victim.

Self justification helps us reduce the cognitive dissonance and feel comfortable aboutwith ourselves.

You may believe that you make good choices in life, but is it like thatthat true?

makes more sense

Let’s imagine that you've driven an old Kia all your life , but then you've decided to buy a Mercedes.

AlsoOr you canould come up with reasons like thisese:

since your writing is pretty much flawless i think i should be giving you corrections to sound more natural instead :v

“After all, I deserve some comfort.”

this didn't really need to be a new line/paragraph, it goes along with the previous sentence. (this would also mean you should cut the last " after Mercedes in the previous sentence)

but, whenever we are quoting something from the same speaker (i.e. there is no break in quotation) that is multiple paragraphs long, the rule is to put a quotation " at the beginning of every new line, but only close the quotation (put " at the end of a paragraph) once the speaker is done talking. i'm not going to write multiple paragraphs but:
"A quotation that takes up multiple lines,
"Would look something like this."

“I've worked hard all my life and now can afford myself Mercedes”

all your life -> present tense } all encompasses the past tense, can't use the present

If some of your friends also will buy Mercedes after your chatter, you’ll feel better about your new car even more.

Because we subconsciously want to creducate cognitive dissonance about our actions.

cognitive dissonance is the thing that makes us feel good about bad decisions, actually. it's a disconnect (dissonance) in our brain (cognitive) between what we know to be logical and our actions.

telling someone they have cognitive dissonance is bad and nobody wants to have it, because to admit that you have it is to say that you do stupid, illogical things that you know are wrong. so i added the word "subconsciously" just to sound a bit more natural :v

We couldan't be sure on 100 percent sure that we made the right decision whether we bought a car, joined an art course, or ordered a new pair of jeans.

we put a comma in between every item in a list or series, even in between the last two items. it's called an oxford comma

could = past tense, but you're talking about a phenomenon that happens constantly and often, so present tense felt like it made more sense to me

Uncertainty makes us uncomfortable, ashamed, and nervous.

oxford comma :v

A smoking personer may decide that cigarettes are not that harmful as everyone say, or they may convince themselves that pleasure from smoking overutweights consequences for health.

we call people who smoke "smokers." it isn't really derogatory here, but know that defining some people by one trait can sometimes be incredibly offensive. to make those terms more polite we use what's called person-first language. a person-first version of "smoker" would simply be "person who smokes." (it's most often derogatory when you use it for people's cultural background, ethnicity, religion, etc. because well uh.... history :v never ever call someone "a jew" unless you're making a sneezing joke)

"pleasure" is 3rd person singular, i.e. it gets conjugated like he/she/it, so the verb needs to have a -s at the end.

overweight is a word so hypothetically you could make it into a verb (you would still have to write overweights in this sentence) but nobody really says that. the word "overweight" is typically an adjective to describe things like in an airport for example that are too heavy for some limit, or for people. when we want a verb to describe something BEING heavier than something else, pretty much everyone will use "outweigh"
(ex. The overweight carry-on was so heavy it outweighed the checked luggage)

That’s why we shouldn''t rely on reviews on the product's' sites, especially if we plan to buy some high-checkpopular items.

when something singular becomes possessive, we use 's: product -> product's
when something plural becomes possessive, and it becomes plural by adding an -s, we only add ' at the end: products -> products'
when something plural becomes possessive, and it doesn't become plural with an -s, we add 's: geese -> geese's

the most common area of dispute with this is people's names that end in the letter S. what i was taught in school was, because they're still singular, you're supposed to still add 's, but pronounce it like there's only one. (ex. Chris -> Chris's, pronounced like Chris.) native speakers do it a lot of different ways though, so to follow descriptivism, there's technically no single right way to do it.

anyways that aside - i'm not entirely certain what "high-check" means? i thought you meant popular but i don't really know

They simply need to believe that they've made athe right choice.

the = specific, defined nouns
often times when we say "right choice" we use "the" because, if we're trying to make a decision that is correct, it's because there's usually many ways to go wrong, and we're trying to find the specific one that is good... so "a right choice" sounded a bit off

So, if you want to make some decision, don't ask for advice from a person who just doneid it.

For example, If someone haves visited psychotherapist for ten10 years and spent on it $50 ,000 on it, they will probably tell you that Dr. Davidson is a great specialist.

titles/honorifics (Mr. Mrs. Ms. Dr.) all get periods at the end to signify that they are a shortening of something (Mister, Misses, Miss - although some people argue that Ms. and Miss are 2 different titles - and Doctor)

someone is 3rd person singular, so it gets conjugated like he/she/it, so it goes with "has" not "have"

technically 10 could be spelled out as ten, but this is the rule i was taught regarding writing a number's name or numeral: if it's 10 or less, spell it out. if it's above 10, write the numeral. regardless of what the number is, you should be consistent within a paragraph/essay, so you should not have a mix of written numbers and numerals. (50,000 > 10, so you write the numeral. but then "ten" should also be in numeral form to match.)

“I don’t know how different would my life would look if I washadn't gone to him.

to be gone to someone, to me, sounds like you fell madly in love with them to the point where you lost yourself in some weird stockholm syndrome obsession lol

I think I wouldn’t have met my partner, wouldn’t have changed career, and wouldn’t gohave travelled.

your verb tense/mood has to remain consistent throughout a sentence

I wouldn’t have been as happy!” Of course, this person will never tell you something like “Dr. Davidson is fraud and liear, and you should never sign up for a session!” If we spend on something a lot of money and energy on somthing, we will support our decision at any price.

For instance, some psychotherapists support the idea that expressing anger helps reduce it.

"idea" is 3rd person singular, so.... well i think you know by now :v

That’s exactly what students in school do, when they're bullying someone.

"when they're bullying someone" is a dependent clause, which gets separated from the rest of the sentence with a comma only when it begins the sentence. when it comes at the end, it has no comma.

(ex. "When students in school bully someone, that's exactly what they're doing." <- starts w/ dependent clause, gets a comma)

When a bulliery later understoodands that they hadn’t no actual reasons for beating a quiet student, the becomesy will creatinge excuses for histheir behaviour to reduce discomfort.

i don't know why "bully" ignores the usual rule of "person who does an action" -> "action-er" but it does :v

"he" can be used here and it's actually what used to be the only Correct Way for a long time. now it's pretty obsolete. to the point where, if you use "he" to refer to any undefined person in general, i think some people need a second to think because it sounds like you're talking about a specific man you already brought up. "they" is a lot more common. (you could say "he or she" but it sounds wayyy formal, and all i can think about when i hear "he OR SHE" anymore is a comedy set by James Acaster lmao)

“This person is a nerd,” “I - if he had a chance, he would also beat me.” In other words, a bulliery blames a victim.

didn't need to be separated with quotes. although, they are 2 separate ideas, so they have to be separate sentences. they would still be in the same quotation marks:
"This person is a nerd! If they had a chance, they would also beat me."

In short, we support decisions that we already have made forat any price.

kind of similar to "the right choice" - "at any price" is just a common phrase we use to refer to doing something at any cost

Also wWe add to our decisions additional — often imaginable — benefits already after a purchase or an action.

you use the word "also" a lot, so it gets kind of unnecessary after a while, but it becomes totally pointless when you also have the word "additional" as they have the same meaning

and "already" just didn't make sense here

Self -justification helps us reduce theour awareness of our cognitive dissonance and feel comfortable about ourselves.