April 16, 2022
How should I talk to my partner about me not feeling comfortable in my relationship because I’m completely out of my comfort zone? Details in notes.
Seriously, I feel very worried after watching your story with your boyfriend. There is a golden rule for relationships:” You should leave if you feel you are not yourself when you are in your relationship. “ We are independent all the time whatever happens because we feel comfortable and happy when we are real and free. From your story, I believe you have lost yourself when you are with your boyfriend together, and you are unhappy and stressed.
Dear, we can’t spend 80% of the time of our lives with others except ourselves because this is not a balanced mode of our lifestyle. We will feel resistant and uncomfortable when we spend so much time with others no matter who they are. Human beings are certain ones who love solitude but can’t without social. Furthermore, we need to find the most suitable model and lifestyle for being people who can enjoy life. Just leave the people who make you feel uncontrolled and uncomfortable all the time. On the other hand, you should leave your boyfriend and say “bye-bye”.
Here are three suggestions for you:
1. leave the man as soon as possible. You should be yourself rather than a girl who sacrifices herself for the man all the time. You will feel comfortable and peaceful even if you will feel so sad and emotional after you broke up with the man.
2. Adjust your lifestyle and match it with your goals. From your story, I can tell you are a nice girl with full goals. You should exercise more if you enjoy working out in the gym. You should study more knowledge and spend more time in the school if you want to focus on your education. Maybe you will get a chance to get into a Top university. At least you will broaden your view and think of things with more perspectives.
3. Spending more time with your parents because they are getting older accompany with you are getting mature. Don’t ignore those people you really should cherish and care about.
The above are my suggestions. I hope you are doing well and it can help you.
Thank you for reading and have a nice day!
This is a question from Quora and I answered it. Below are the details of poster:
I’ve been in a relationship since 10 months with my partner. Early on, I was really excited because he pulled out of my comfort zone and made me experience new things, however, lately I’ve been feeling that I completely lost myself because of this ‘new me’.
My boyfriend has been suggesting lot and lots of programmes to do together because while he considers himself to be an introvert too, he also goes out to parties occasionally and is socially more interactive than me. Early on, I said yes to all these invitations, because I felt like that my life is completely boring, uninteractive. For a while, it was bearable, but lately, I just wanna work, focus on my education and chill.
Background story: I spend 80% of the week at his place, the rest is a Tuesday and Thursday where I get to stay at my place and enjoy the freedom of not having to worry about pleasing him. I go to the gym 3 times a week, but only on these 2 days and on Friday afternoon, because when we’re together, he says we should do everything together when it’s “us” time. The problem is, I feel suffocated while also being in love with him. He says that he knows that these events are good stress relievers and beneficial for me, but whenever I go, I feel like my tooth is being pulled out. For this reason, I feel like I can only be myself in those 2 days we’re separate, because then I can spend as much time reading, gaming and doing my hobbies as much as I want.
What to do? I feel like I’m being emotionally controlled and that the more time I sacrifice from my own time and well-being, the more I get frustrated and eventually burst the entire stress bubble on him which he doesn’t deserve.
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This sentence isn't gramatically incorrect, however, they phrasing feels a little strange.
Maybe: How should I talk to my partner about not feeling comfortable in our relationship? I always feel like I am completely out of my comfort zone.
Details in notes.
Seriously,, I feel very worried after watchreading your story withabout your boyfriend.
You should use the verb reading. Watching is the verb we use when something is happening in front of us - I watch a movie, I watch tennis, I watch people walk down the street. Reading is for when we are looking at words
There is a golden rule for relationships:” "You should leave if you feel you are not yourself when you arile in your relationship."
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The meaning of this sentence is a little unclear. I have corrected it to what I think you mean, sorry if I have missunderstood you. Let me know if you have any questions about this correction.
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I think that "sayonara" is the tone you are trying to have. It is a Japanese word originally but English borrows it frequently. It is used as a different way to say goodbye but I often think it is used more when we say goodbye to something and we are relieved it is gone.
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Boyfriend is a better choice than man in this sentence.
2. Adjust your lifestyle and match it with your goals.
From your story, I can tell you are a nice girl with meaningfull goals.
You should exercise more if you enjoy working out inat the gym.
We would say working out at the gym. I know in the gym makes more sense gramatically, however, we would always say at. I can't explain why because I don't know why, it is just a weird English thing.
You should study more knowledge and spend more time in the school if you want to focus on your education.
You don't need to say knowledge because saying studying implies you are gaining knowledge.
Maybe you will get athe chance to get into a Top university.study your passions at an even higher level.
I am unsure if the post said whether she was in highschool or older, however, I believe the author would already be in university or atleast have graduated highschool. Since the author says she has free days during the week (monday-Friday) she could not be in a normal highschool because highschool students do not get regular days off of school - at least I have never heard of this.
Because of this I would suggest changing this sentence to reflect that she may be at university.
At least you will broaden your view and think of things withhorizons and gain more perspectives.
Broadening your horizons is an English idiom - it essentially means to experience new things.
3. Spending more time with your parents because they are getting older accompany with you are getting maturefamily.
This sentence gramatically is okay, however, I would change it. Because you do not know the person you are talking too, you do not know if their parents are still alive, because of this I would suggest changing the sentence to my suggestion. This sentence is more inclusive for people with different family structures.
Don’t ignore those people you really shouldshould really cherish and care about.
The above are my suggestions.
I hope you are doing well and it can help you.that my suggestions are helpful.
Or you could combine this sentence and the above sentence to make
The above are my suggestions, I hope they can help you and I hope you are doing well.
Thank you for reading and have a nice day!
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Really good work! It is very kind of you to try and help people all over the world, even if their native language is not the same as your own. If anything I have written confuses you please let me know and I will try and clarify myself. Have a lovely day!
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How should I talk to my partner about me not feeling comfortable in my relationship because I’m completely out of my comfort zone? How should I talk to my partner about our relationship not my, because the two people in the realtionship share it. This sentence isn't gramatically incorrect, however, they phrasing feels a little strange. Maybe: How should I talk to my partner about not feeling comfortable in our relationship? I always feel like I am completely out of my comfort zone. |
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Seriously, I feel very worried after watching your story with your boyfriend. Seriously You should use the verb reading. Watching is the verb we use when something is happening in front of us - I watch a movie, I watch tennis, I watch people walk down the street. Reading is for when we are looking at words |
There is a golden rule for relationships:” You should leave if you feel you are not yourself when you are in your relationship. There is a golden rule for relationships: What you wrote is not wrong, however, this correction feels more natural. |
“ We are independent all the time whatever happens because we feel comfortable and happy when we are real and free.
The meaning of this sentence is a little unclear. I have corrected it to what I think you mean, sorry if I have missunderstood you. Let me know if you have any questions about this correction. |
From your story, I believe you have lost yourself when you are with your boyfriend together, and you are unhappy and stressed. From your story |
Dear, we can’t spend 80% of the time of our lives with others except ourselves because this is not a balanced mode of our lifestyle.
You don't need to say others except ourselves, this is because others shows that you are talking about people apart from yourself. |
We will feel resistant and uncomfortable when we spend so much time with others no matter who they are. We will eventually feel resistant Use eventually to show that this may not happen at the start, but it will happen. |
Human beings are certain ones who love solitude but can’t without social. Human beings Use also to show that even though one thing is true, another thing is also true |
Furthermore, we need to find the most suitable model and lifestyle for being people who can enjoy life. Furthermore, we need to find the most suitable |
Just leave the people who make you feel uncontrolled and uncomfortable all the time. Just leave the people who make you feel Uncontrolled would be a positive word in this case - it would mean you had freedom. |
On the other hand, you should leave your boyfriend and say “bye-bye”.
On the other hand implies the advice you gave before is different to this advice, but it is not. "bye-bye" is not the most appropraite choice here it make is sound either sassy (sassy is kind of like rude but has a certain nuance to it), or childish. I think that "sayonara" is the tone you are trying to have. It is a Japanese word originally but English borrows it frequently. It is used as a different way to say goodbye but I often think it is used more when we say goodbye to something and we are relieved it is gone. |
Here are three suggestions for you: This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
1. leave the man as soon as possible. You should be yourself rather than a girl who sacrifices herself for the man all the time. 1. leave the man as soon as possible. You should be yourself rather than Girl we would only really use to refere to someone younger than an adult. In this case I would naturally think the person writing the original question was an adult. Instaed of man you could also say boyfriend or partner. |
You will feel comfortable and peaceful even if you will feel so sad and emotional after you broke up with the man. You will feel comfortable and peaceful, even if you Boyfriend is a better choice than man in this sentence. |
2. Adjust your lifestyle and match it with your goals. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
From your story, I can tell you are a nice girl with full goals. From your story, I can tell you are a nice girl with meaningful |
You should exercise more if you enjoy working out in the gym. You should exercise more if you enjoy working out We would say working out at the gym. I know in the gym makes more sense gramatically, however, we would always say at. I can't explain why because I don't know why, it is just a weird English thing. |
You should study more knowledge and spend more time in the school if you want to focus on your education. You should study more You don't need to say knowledge because saying studying implies you are gaining knowledge. |
Maybe you will get a chance to get into a Top university. Maybe you will get I am unsure if the post said whether she was in highschool or older, however, I believe the author would already be in university or atleast have graduated highschool. Since the author says she has free days during the week (monday-Friday) she could not be in a normal highschool because highschool students do not get regular days off of school - at least I have never heard of this. Because of this I would suggest changing this sentence to reflect that she may be at university. |
At least you will broaden your view and think of things with more perspectives. At least you will broaden your Broadening your horizons is an English idiom - it essentially means to experience new things. |
3. Spending more time with your parents because they are getting older accompany with you are getting mature. 3. Spending more time with your This sentence gramatically is okay, however, I would change it. Because you do not know the person you are talking too, you do not know if their parents are still alive, because of this I would suggest changing the sentence to my suggestion. This sentence is more inclusive for people with different family structures. |
Don’t ignore those people you really should cherish and care about. Don’t ignore th |
The above are my suggestions. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
I hope you are doing well and it can help you. I hope you are doing well and Or you could combine this sentence and the above sentence to make The above are my suggestions, I hope they can help you and I hope you are doing well. |
Thank you for reading and have a nice day! This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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