June 15, 2024
How Do Are Brains Assimilate Death?
Have you already lost someone very closed and dear? Someone like your father, mother or sibling? I lost my father two and a half months ago. It’s not only sad. It’s strange.
It’s strange because my brain doesn’t really understand that. I wonder if evolution forgot to make us able to deal with death or if the way it made us able to was by programming our brains not to understand it. Because it would be too sad, unbearably sad to assimilate a loss definitely.
So, the penny never drops once and for all. Many times in my everyday life I act as if my father was still alive and suddenly remember he is not. For example yesterday I helped my mother with some gardening. It took me two hours to clear a corner from invasive plants. At the end we were contemplating the result with satisfaction and I was about to say “Let’s send a pic to Dad!“. But I didn’t say it.
A wise part of me told to myself “Dad can’t receive any pic where he is now.”
Then came the thought “Oh! You’re right! Damn it! I had forgotten again.”
Then came the thought “Still, I’d like to say it. It would make me feel better.”
Then came the thought “As I know Mum, I don’t think it would make her feel better to hear that.”
So I shut my mouth.
Maybe it’s just a matter of time. After a certain amount of pennies will have dropped, all the parts of me will have assimilated that Dad is not here with us anymore.
How Do AreOur Brains Assimilate Death?
Have you already lost someone very closed and dear?
Someone like your father, mother or sibling?
I lost my father two and a half months ago.
It’s not only sad, but strange too.
Combined with the following sentence. Even though them being sentences on their own isn't fine, this way is more concise. Unless you separated them for dramatic effect, which in that case is fine.
It’s strange.
It’s strange because my brain doesn’t really understand that.
I wonder if evolution forgot to make us able to deal with death or if the way it made us able to was by programming our brains not to understand it.
Because it would be too sad, unbearably sad to assimilate a loss definitely.
So, the penny never drops once and for all.
Huh, so I actually had to search this idiom up. I don't think I've ever heard of it before. Not that there's anything wrong with it or anything, but it might be just a bit *too* archaic.
Many times in my everyday life do I act as if my father was still alive and suddenly remember he is not.
For example yesterday I helped my mother with some gardening.
It took me two hours to clear a corner from invasive plants.
At the end we were contemplating the result with satisfaction and I was about to say “Let’s send a pic to Dad!“.
But I didn’t say it.
A wise part of me told to myself “Dad can’t receive any pic where he is now.” Then came the thought “Oh!
You’re right!
Damn it!
I had forgotten again.”
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Then came the thought
Followed by me thinking “Still, I’d like to say it.
It would make me feel better.”
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Then came the thought “As I know
However, I still hesitate. “Knowing Mum, I don’t think it would make her feel better to hear that.”
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So I shut my mouth.
Saying "Then came the thought" is okay as a transition once, but if you keep doing repeating it, whatever you're trying to say comes off as redundant and slightly unnatural.
Maybe it’s just a matter of time.
After a certain amount of pennies will havare dropped, all the parts of me will have assimilated that Dad is not here with us anymore.
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I am very sorry for your loss. Death can be a hard thing to process, and according to the 5 stages of grief, it says that you're in the first stage; Denial. The following stages are: Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and then Acceptance. So I'm sure one day you'll reach that final stage.
June 16, 2024
Thank you for your corrections and for your words.
How Do AreOur Brains Assimilate Death?
Have you already lost someone very closed and dear?
Someone like your father, mother, or sibling?
It’s not only sad.,
But It’s strange.
It took me two hours to clear a corner from invasive plants.
Invasive plants are commonly called "weeds".
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This is very good writing, my condolences.
June 15, 2024
Thanks a lot!
How Do AreOur Brains Assimilate Death?
Have you already lost someone very closed and dear?
Someone like your father, mother or sibling?
I lost my father two and a half months ago.
It’s not only sad.
It’s strange.
It’s strange because my brain doesn’t really understand that / it.
I wonder if evolution forgot to make us able to deal with death or if the way it made us able to was by programming our brains not to understand it.
Because it would be too sad, unbearably sad, to assimilate a loss definitely.
So, the penny never drops once and for all.
Many times | Often in my everyday life I act as if my father was still alive and suddenly remember he is not.
or: Many times… I have acted
For example, yesterday I helped my mother with some gardening.
It took me two hours to clear a corner ofrom invasive plants.
Clear invasive plants FROM a corner
Clear a corner OF invasive plants
At / In the end we were contemplating the result with satisfaction and I was about to say “Let’s send a pic to Dad!“.
But I didn’t say it.
A wise part of me told to myself, “Dad can’t receive any pic where he is now.”
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Then came the thought, “Oh!
You’re right!
Damn it!
I had forgotten again.”
¶
Then came the thought, “Still, I’d like to say it.
It would make me feel better.”
¶
Then came the thought, “As I know Mum, I don’t think it would make her feel better to hear that.”
¶
So I shut my mouth.
Maybe it’s just a matter of time.
After a certain amount / number of pennies will have dropped, all the parts of me will have assimilated the fact that Dad is not here with us anymore.
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Very well written. My corrections are all minor.
I haven’t experienced a loss like that, but I can imagine how disconcerting it must be to partially “forget” that someone’s gone, maybe akin to starting to drive “home” to the wrong house a few months after moving, which I’ve done a couple times.
June 15, 2024
Ha! Funny! :)
Thank you for the corrections
June 16, 2024
You’re welcome. :-)
I added a comment / explanation under the “invasive plants” sentence.
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So, the penny never drops once and for all. This sentence has been marked as perfect! So, the penny never drops once and for all. Huh, so I actually had to search this idiom up. I don't think I've ever heard of it before. Not that there's anything wrong with it or anything, but it might be just a bit *too* archaic. |
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But I didn’t say it. This sentence has been marked as perfect! This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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A wise part of me told to myself “Dad can’t receive any pic where he is now.” Then came the thought “Oh! A wise part of me told to myself, “Dad can’t receive any pic where he is now.” This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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You’re right! This sentence has been marked as perfect! This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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I had forgotten again.” Then came the thought “Still, I’d like to say it. I had forgotten again.” I had forgotten again.” |
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It would make me feel better.” Then came the thought “As I know Mum, I don’t think it would make her feel better to hear that.” So I shut my mouth. It would make me feel better.” It would make me feel better.” Saying "Then came the thought" is okay as a transition once, but if you keep doing repeating it, whatever you're trying to say comes off as redundant and slightly unnatural. |
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Maybe it’s just a matter of time. This sentence has been marked as perfect! This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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I lost my father two and a half months ago. This sentence has been marked as perfect! This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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It’s strange because my brain doesn’t really understand that. It’s strange because my brain doesn’t really understand that / it. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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Because it would be too sad, unbearably sad to assimilate a loss definitely. Because it would be too sad, unbearably sad, to assimilate a loss definitely. This sentence has been marked as perfect! |
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After a certain amount of pennies will have dropped, all the parts of me will have assimilated that Dad is not here with us anymore. After a certain amount / number of pennies will have dropped, all the parts of me will have assimilated the fact that Dad is not here with us anymore. After a certain amount of pennies |
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