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Why Don't I Speak to Everybody?

(Hello! My goal is writing understandable English. I don't want to be perfect or using technical words. Thank you for reading it.)

Today I was listening to music, and a song reminded me of something I've heard all my life, especially when someone gets close to me or we talk for the first time: "I didn't take the courage to speak you because you look so angry or serious."

This phrase, at the beginning, made me laugh, but with time it started to make me uncomfortable. It isn't because I feel bothered by my serious personality, but I feel that people make conclusions without meeting me. They judge me for my facial expression, my silence, or not being so expressive at the start.

It's curious that if you ask my best friend or my husband, they will tell you the opposite: "you cannot have a short conversation with her because she never shuts up." So, why is this happening?

It isn't that I don't speak. I speak a lot, but not with anyone. When I feel uncomfortable or not understood, it's a big effort to express myself. And when I feel that somebody is judging or labeling me, I close myself even more. It's a hard circle to brake.

I feel free, seen, and listened to only with some people. There, my real personality gets out: happy, lovely, emotional and speaker. But, if I feel that I need to make an effort to please or fit in, I prefer to keep in silence. It isn't that I have nothing to say, but it's because my energy is limited and I don't share it with just anyone.


Título: ¿Por qué no hablo con todos?

Hoy estaba escuchando música y una canción me recordó el comentario que se ha repetido toda mi vida, especialmente cuando una persona se me acerca o tenemos nuestra primera charla: "Yo no me atrevía a hablarle porque se ve enojada o seria."

Esa frase, que al principio me daba risa, con el tiempo empezó a incomodarme. No porque me moleste ser seria, sino porque siento que la gente saca conclusiones sin conocerme. Me juzgan por mi cara, por mi silencio, o por no ser muy expresiva de entrada.

Lo curioso es que, si le preguntas a mi mejor amiga o a mi esposo, te dirán todo lo contrario: con Laura no se puede tener una conversación corta porque no se calla. Entonces, ¿por qué pasa esto?

No es que yo no hable. Hablo muchísimo, pero no con cualquiera. Me cuesta expresarme cuando no me siento cómoda o comprendida. Y cuando siento que alguien me está juzgando o etiquetando, me cierro todavía más. Es un círculo difícil de romper.

Con algunas personas me siento libre, vista, escuchada, y ahí sale mi verdadera personalidad: alegre, amorosa, emocional y habladora. Pero si siento que tengo que esforzarme para agradar o para encajar, prefiero guardar silencio. No porque no tenga nada que decir, sino porque mi energía es limitada y no la regalo a cualquier persona.

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Why Don't I Speak to Everybody?

(Hello!

My goal is writing understandable English.

So, why is this happening?

It isn't that I don't speak.

And when I feel that somebody is judging or labeling me, I close myself even more.

I feel free, seen, and listened to only with some people.

It isn't that I have nothing to say, but it's because my energy is limited and I don't share it with just anyone.

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adichira

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Thank you for reading it.)

This phrase, at the beginning, made me laugh, but with time it started to make me uncomfortable.

So, why is this happening?

It isn't that I don't speak.

When I feel uncomfortable or not understood, it's a big effort to express myself.

I feel free, seen, and listened to only with some people.

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adichira

July 20, 2025

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It isn't that I have nothing to say, but it's because my energy is limited and I don't share it with just anyone.


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(Hello!


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Why Don't I Speak to Everybody?


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There, my real personality gets out: happy, lovely, emotional and speaker.


There, my real personality gets outis shown: happy, lovely, emotional and a speaker. There, my real personality is shown: happy, lovely, emotional and a speaker.

There, my real personality gets out: happy, lovely, emotional and speakertalkative. There, my real personality gets out: happy, lovely, emotional and talkative.

"Speaker" can't work as an adjective.

Thank you for reading it.)


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Thank you for reading it.) Thank you for reading)

My goal is writing understandable English.


My goal is to be able to writinge understandable English. My goal is to be able to write understandable English.

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I don't want to be perfect or using technical words.


I don't want to be perfect or usinge technical words. I don't want to be perfect or use technical words.

I don't want to be perfect or usinge technical words. I don't want to be perfect or use technical words.

Today I was listening to music, and a song reminded me of something I've heard all my life, especially when someone gets close to me or we talk for the first time: "I didn't take the courage to speak you because you look so angry or serious."


Today I was listening to music, and a song reminded me of something I've heard all my life, especially when someone gets close to me or we talk for the first time: "I didn't take the courage to speak to you because you look so angry or serious." Today I was listening to music, and a song reminded me of something I've heard all my life, especially when someone gets close to me or we talk for the first time: "I didn't take the courage to speak to you because you look so angry or serious."

Today I was listening to music, and a song reminded me of something I've heard all my life, especially when someone gets close to me or we talk for the first time: "I didn't takhave the courage to speak to you because you look so angry orand serious." Today I was listening to music, and a song reminded me of something I've heard all my life, especially when someone gets close to me or we talk for the first time: "I didn't have the courage to speak to you because you look so angry and serious."

This phrase, at the beginning, made me laugh, but with time it started to make me uncomfortable.


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This phrase, at the beginningfirst, made me laugh, but with time it started to make me uncomfortable. This phrase, at first, made me laugh, but with time it started to make me uncomfortable.

There's some subtlety to this, but "at first" is far more natural for more general, non-specific things. You'd use "at the beginning" if there's a more specific time or place that you are talking about. "At the beginning of the story, the hero is still in his home village." "At first, he doesn't care about adventuring. But soon, everything will change."

It isn't because I feel bothered by my serious personality, but I feel that people make conclusions without meeting me.


It isn't because I feel bothered by my serious personality, but I feel that people make conclusions without megetting to know me. It isn't because I feel bothered by my serious personality, but I feel that people make conclusions without getting to know me.

It isn't because I feel bothered by my serious personality, but I feel that people make conclusions without meeting me. It isn't because I feel bothered by my serious personality, but I feel that people make conclusions without meeting me.

A more natural alternative: "... but it feels like people make conclusions without meeting me."

They judge me for my facial expression, my silence, or not being so expressive at the start.


They judge me for my facial expression, my silence, or not being aso expressive at the start. They judge me for my facial expression, my silence, or not being as expressive at the start.

They judge me for my facial expression, my silence, or not being so expressive at the starfirst. They judge me for my facial expression, my silence, or not being so expressive at first.

It's curious that if you ask my best friend or my husband, they will tell you the opposite: "you cannot have a short conversation with her because she never shuts up."


It's curious, that if you ask my best friend or my husband, they will tell you the opposite: "you cannot have a short conversation with her because she never shuts up." It's curious, that if you ask my best friend or my husband, they will tell you the opposite: "you cannot have a short conversation with her because she never shuts up."

It's curious thatbecause, if you ask my best friend or my husband, they will tell you the opposite: "you cannot have a short conversation with her because she never shuts up." It's curious because, if you ask my best friend or my husband, they will tell you the opposite: "you cannot have a short conversation with her because she never shuts up."

"It's curious that" sounds rather odd here. This might be because we are saying that an "if/then" statement is "curious". Note the following: "It's curious that you asked him." "It's curious because, if you asked him, he would tell you the opposite."

So, why is this happening?


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It isn't that I don't speak.


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I speak a lot, but not with anyone.


I speak a lot, but not with aneveryone. I speak a lot, but not with everyone.

“just anyone” would also make sense here, if that’s what you meant

I speak a lot, but not with aneveryone. I speak a lot, but not with everyone.

If you don't speak with anyone, that means you never speak to people, ever. If you don't speak with everyone, that means you speak to some people, but not all. If you meant that you talk a lot to yourself, I would use the verb "talk" instead of "speak", because "speak" carries with it the sense that you are speaking TO someone. The phrase "I speak a lot, but not with anyone" feels like it contradicts itself.

When I feel uncomfortable or not understood, it's a big effort to express myself.


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When I feel uncomfortable or not understood, it's a big effort to express myself. When I feel uncomfortable or not understood, it's a big effort to express myself.

Alternatively: "...it takes a lot of effort to express myself." But otherwise, I understand you perfectly.

And when I feel that somebody is judging or labeling me, I close myself even more.


And when I feel that somebody is judging or labeling me, I close myself off even more. And when I feel that somebody is judging or labeling me, I close myself off even more.

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It's a hard circle to brake.


It's a hard circle to breake. It's a hard circle to break.

It's a hard cirycle to breake. It's a hard cycle to break.

I feel free, seen, and listened to only with some people.


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But, if I feel that I need to make an effort to please or fit in, I prefer to keep in silence.


But, if I feel that I need to make an effort to please or fit in, I prefer to keep instay silencet. But, if I feel that I need to make an effort to please or fit in, I prefer to stay silent.

But, if I feel that I need to make an effort to please or fit in, I prefer to keep in silencet. But, if I feel that I need to make an effort to please or fit in, I prefer to keep silent.

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