8th Jan 2020

Lauren

Jan. 8, 2020

Hi guys! I've got a lot on my mind lately, some questions that I have no answers for. So I thought I'd just write them down.

I met someone a while ago. Well, we were classmates before but we didn't really know each other at that time. And now we met under a different circumstance, and I'm glad we did because I hadn't felt that way about anyone in a long long time. I honestly thought we had a connection, you know?

Everything was going well, we went on a couple of dates, he's a decent and sophisticated person which is exactly my type. He may be a bit cocky and judgemental sometimes but that, obviously, didn't stop me from developing feelings for him. And then it all went south on our Christmas date. I honestly don't know why but he started acting really weird halfway through the date and we didn't talk at all on our way home. I got a bit upset that night so I texted him and said something like "I don't know what's on your mind, but I feel like I deserved a little bit more attention". And guess what? He just apologised for ruining such a good day for me, and I never heard back from him again. Honestly, I just don't get it. Why on earth would he ask me out on Christmas if he wasn't interested in me? Like why???? But I'm not a person who double-texts/ gets clingy so I tried REALLY hard not to text him again.

I got really upset and pessimistic since then, I started asking myself what I had done so wrong because I honestly don't know. I'd consider myself a good person, there's not a single circumstance under which I didn't put myself the second and thought about his needs first. I just can't help thinking, am I not good enough?

But I'm grateful for all the people who love me and care about me. x I feel sorry for bombarding them with sour and sad messages, especially during the holidays. But I'm more clear-minded now. If he doesn't like me for who I am then perhaps it's better now that he's not in my life. I need to acknowledge the fact that I'm not responsible for his decisions and that I need to stop beating myself over it.

Well, it's always easier said than done. I can't even study Japanese without him popping up on my mind (he's fluent in Japanese and had always said that he would help me with mine). Every time I got out of the house I'm super nervous about running into him (we live really close together) and there were a few times I thought I saw him (and then I'd start wondering if I was hallucinating). And now I just completely lost interest in meeting anyone new. Time will heal, I know, but right now I just want to be alone (and probably drink away my sorrow).

Considering the situation now here in Hong Kong, honestly I just want him to be safe and stay healthy. That's what's important. x

Thanks for reading guys, I feel better now that I got it off my chest. Stay positive and stay strong. xx

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Ninatails

8th ~~Jan~~of January, 2020

Most dates are MONTH DAY, YEAR.
The other way is DAY of MONTH, YEAR.

Hi guys!

I've got a lot on my mind lately, so here are some questions that I have no answers for.

So I thought I'd just write them down.

I met someone a while ago.

Well, we were classmates before, but we didn't really know each other well at that time.

And ~~now w~~recently, we have met under a different circumstance, and I'm glad we did because I hadven't felt that way about anyone in a long, long time.

I honestly thought we had a connection, you know?

Everything was going well, and we went on a couple of dates~~, h~~. He's a decent and sophisticated person which is exactly my type.

He may be a bit cocky and judgemental sometimes, but that, obviously, didn't stop me from developing feelings for him.

And then it all went south on our Christmas date.

I honestly don't know why, but he started acting really weird halfway through the date and we didn't talk at all on our way home.

I got a bit upset that night so I texted him and said something like, "I don't know what's on your mind, but I feel like I deserved a little bit more attention".

And guess what?

He just apologised for ruining such a good day for me, and I never heard back from him again.

Honestly, I just don't get it.

Why on earth would he ask me out on Christmas if he wasn't interested in me?

Like why?

But I'm not a person who double-texts/ or gets clingy so I tried REALLY hard not to text him again.

I got really upset and pessimistic s. Since then, I have started asking myself what I had done so wrong because I honestly don't know.

I'd consider myself a good person~~, t~~. There's not a single circumstance under which I didn't ~~put myself the second and thought about his needs first~~think about putting his needs first and myself second.

First, then second. Try to stay in order.

I just can't help thinking, a"Am I not good enough?".

But I'm grateful for all the people who love me and care about me.

x I feel sorry for bombarding them with sour and sad messages, especially during the holidays.

But I'm more clear-minded now.

If he doesn't like me for who I am, then perhaps it's better now that he's not in my life.

I need to acknowledge the fact that I'm not responsible for his decisions and that I need to stop beating myself up over it.

Well, it's always easier said than done.

I can't even study Japanese without him popping up on my mind. (hHe's fluent in Japanese and had always said that he would help me with mine).

Every time I got out of the house, I'm super nervous about running into him. (wWe live really close together) a. And there were a few times I thought I saw him (and then I'd start wondering if I was hallucinating).

And now I just completely lost interest in meeting anyone new.

Time will heal, I know, but right now I just want to be alone (and probably drink away my sorrow).

Considering the situation ~~now~~ here in Hong Kong, honestly, I just want him to be safe and stay healthy.

That's what's important.

xThanks for reading guys,. I feel better now that I've got it off my chest.

Stay positive and stay strong.

geminaura

8th Jan 2020

Hi guys!

I've ~~got~~had a lot on my mind lately, and have some questions that I have no answers for.

So I thought I'd just write them down.

I met someone a while ago.

Well, we were classmates before, but we didn't really know each other at thate time.

~~And now~~Recently we met under a different circumstances, and I'm glad we did because I hadn't felt that way about anyone in a long, long time.

When you use "now" I expect that this had happened recently and that nothing had changed since you met. But I see in your next sentence something changed :(. "That way" hasn't been mentioned before so I would combine this sentence with the one after it. "... and I'm glad we did because I hadn't felt such a connection with anyone in a long, long time". Saying "that way" is still correct! Just not really how a native would say it

I honestly thought we had a connection, you know?

Everything was going well, we went on a couple of dates~~, h~~. He's a decent and sophisticated person which is exactly my type.

He may be a bit cocky and judgemental sometimes, but that, obviously, didn't stop me from developing feelings for him.

And then it all went south on our Christmas date.

I honestly don't know why, but he started acting really weird halfway through the date and we didn't talk at all on our way home.

I got a bit upset that night so I texted him and said something like, "I don't know what's on your mind, but I feel like I deserved a little bit more attention".

And guess what?

He just apologised for ruining such a good day for me, and I never heard back from him again.

Honestly, I just don't get it.

Why on earth would he ask me out on Christmas if he wasn't interested in me?

Like why?

But I'm not a person who double-texts/ gets clingy so I tried REALLY hard not to text him again.

I ~~got~~have been really upset and pessimistic since then,. I started asking myself what I had done so wrong because I honestly don't know.

I'd consider myself a good person~~, t~~. There~~'s no~~ wasn't a single ~~circumstance under which I didn't put myself the second and~~time I put myself first. I always thought about his needs first.

"I'd consider myself a good person" = "I would consider myself a good person, but..."
Double negatives = a positive and its confusing even for us! Your negatives cancelled out correctly in the end, but it was a little confusing.

I just can't help thinking, am I not good enough?

But I'm grateful for all the people who love me and care about me.

x I feel sorry for bombarding them with sour and sad messages, especially during the holidays.

But I'm more clear-minded now.

If he doesn't like me for who I am then perhaps it's better now that he's not in my life.

I need to acknowledge the fact that I'm not responsible for his decisions and that I need to stop beating myself up over it.

Well, it's always easier said than done.

I can't even study Japanese without him popping up oin my mind (he's fluent in Japanese and had always said that he would help me with mine).

or "popping into"

Every time I got out of the house, I'm super nervous about running into him (we live really close together) and there were a few times I thought I saw him (and then I'd start wondering if I was hallucinating).

And now I just completely lost interest in meeting anyone new.

Time will heal, I know, but right now I just want to be alone (and probably drink away my sorrow).

Considering the situation ~~now~~ here in Hong Kong, honestly, I just want him to be safe and stay healthy.

That's what's important.

xThanks for reading guys, I feel better now that I got it off my chest.

Stay positive and stay strong.

Feedback

Your English is so good! I'm sorry for placing commas as edits. Your English is just so good and this is so well written I went into extreme editing mode (I left them in, because maybe you'd like to know where they should go - though I might have missed a couple). You are such a good person for still wishing him well even though all of this happened just recently. You shouldn't worry because you'll obviously find someone better soon. Grieving is a process so don't push yourself too hard. I also hope you stay safe given everything happening in Hong Kong!

Lauren

Jan. 9, 2020

Thank you so much!! Hahah don't worry, I'm more used to texting so I don't usually pay attention to punctuation! Thanks for correcting! And thank you for the kind words and wishes, all the best to you as well! <3 Lauren

yodasoda

8th Jan 2020

Hi guys!

I've got a lot on my mind lately, some questions that I have no answers for.

So I thought I'd just write them down.

I met someone a while ago.

Well, we were classmates before but we didn't really know each other at that time.

And now we met under a different circumstance, and I'm glad we did because I hadn't felt that way about anyone in a long long time.

I honestly thought we had a connection, you know?

Everything was going well, we went on a couple of dates, he's a decent and sophisticated person which is exactly my type.

He may be a bit cocky and judgemental sometimes but that, obviously, didn't stop me from developing feelings for him.

And then it all went south on our Christmas date.

I honestly don't know why but he started acting really weird halfway through the date and we didn't talk at all on our way home.

I got a bit upset that night so I texted him and said something like "I don't know what's on your mind, but I feel like I deserved a little bit more attention".

And guess what?

He just apologised for ruining such a good day for me, and I never heard back from him again.

Honestly, I just don't get it.

Why on earth would he ask me out on Christmas if he wasn't interested in me?

Like why?

But I'm not a person who double-texts/ gets clingy so I tried REALLY hard not to text him again.

I got really upset and pessimistic since then, I started asking myself what I had done so wrong because I honestly don't know.

I'd consider myself a good person, there's not a single circumstance under which I didn't put myself the second and thought about his needs first.

I just can't help thinking, am I not good enough?

But I'm grateful for all the people who love me and care about me.

x I feel sorry for bombarding them with sour and sad messages, especially during the holidays.

But I'm more clear-minded now.

If he doesn't like me for who I am then perhaps it's better now that he's not in my life.

I need to acknowledge the fact that I'm not responsible for his decisions and that I need to stop beating myself over it.

Well, it's always easier said than done.

I can't even study Japanese without him popping up on my mind (he's fluent in Japanese and had always said that he would help me with mine).

Every time I got out of the house I'm super nervous about running into him (we live really close together) and there were a few times I thought I saw him (and then I'd start wondering if I was hallucinating).

And now I just completely lost interest in meeting anyone new.

Time will heal, I know, but right now I just want to be alone (and probably drink away my sorrow).

Considering the situation now here in Hong Kong, honestly I just want him to be safe and stay healthy.

That's what's important.

xThanks for reading guys, I feel better now that I got it off my chest.

Stay positive and stay strong.

Feedback

You always have this community to rely upon!
I'm native in Japanese. I'll help in any way I can :)
Send me a message here or on Discord!

Lauren

Jan. 9, 2020

Thank you Yoda, that's very sweet of you! I'll be sure to reach out if I need help! <3 ありがとう！

He may be a bit cocky and judgemental sometimes but that, obviously, didn't stop me from developing feelings for him.