"我们做的都是为你好"

"我们做的都是为你好"

当我还是小孩子的是后，我经常会听到这句子。父母逼我刷数学题待晚一点，即使我哭了；犯了小错以后吼或打我，即使我哭了。一直都是一个句子。

于是令我深思了，父母真的只到什么"为孩子好"？当然，我现在不是父母所以不能分享持平之论，但拜托从一位孩子的角度来理解。

对我来说，这个像是一个很不好的命令孩子的理由，甚至借口。但还是有些真是所以都很矛盾并难以选择。一方面，用"都是为你好"的借口来辩解情感或身体伤害是很有害的，甚至是虐待。但另方面，那些几个被逼做的数学题对我成绩很有帮助。

但总体来说，我还不同意这种行为。

"Everything we do is for your own good"

As a child, I always heard this phrase. After my parents forced me to stay up to do extra math problems, even when I cried; after they yelled or hit me after I did something minute, even when I cried. It was always the same phrase.

That got me thinking, do parents really know what is best for the "child's own good"? Of course, I'm not a parent yet so I can't exactly share unbiased thoughts, but please hear me from the perspective of a child.

To me, the phrase just seems like terrible justification to order around a child, an excuse even. But there is some truth in it which makes everything so conflicting and hard to decide. On one hand, justifying physical or emotional harm with "it's for you own good" in itself is harmful, even abusive. But on the other hand, those few extra math problems I was forced to do helped me immensely with my grades.

But overall, I still do not agree with the sentiment.